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The Unbearable Fleetness of Being

7000 photos later, I have a 7 week old baby.

wide eyed boy Proud mama jokers to the left of me... big eyed boy, 6 weeks old Family portrait, March 5 2013 freerangers

(Apparently, he crossed over from being a newborn to being a regular garden variety baby at the 6 week mark, a milepost we came upon like rally car drivers, speed-whipped and vaguely stunned, leaning hard into the next turn.)

There is a new quality to my days (apart from the Monty Python moments, like 5 minutes ago when I backhanded a half litre mug of tea over, onto a storybook, notepad, camera, desk calendar and box of colouring pencils piled neatly on the kitchen counter. Sippy cups – clearly not originally invented for the babies.)

It’s a shining, ice-cream headache kind of quality  (which may be the abrupt assault to my circadian rhythms perpetrated by the lovely but hungry Wee Dictator and his marble-sized stomach)…

or maybe has nothing to do with sleep and is just the halo effect of the boy who strikes me as peculiarly brilliant – not in any IQ, developmental fashion, just in a radiant illuminating kind of way.

His existence seems to affect everyone around us:

my father in law stares at a tape measure laid flat on the floor, unleashed to 90 inches, pondering his 65 inch notch in the tape and how little time he has left compared to his grandson who has barely even registered on the timeline;

my mother is packing together five generations worth of family heirlooms and 35 year old babyclothes that she has had hidden under the stairs to bring for her first visit, even though all we really want from Australia is Vegemite and sun-kissed cuddles form Grandma;

my 6 year old niece and 3 year old friend are obsessed with looking at the baby, especially when he’s asleep. “Can I see the baby?” they ask, (and call him “she”, which makes me wonder momentarily, ‘too girly a name? too girly a wardrobe?” or maybe they just see him as a miniature version of themselves.

Don’t we all.)

My husband’s 90+ year old grandmother says wistfully, “he’s right at the beginning of things. Everything to come will be a first.”

And everyone else says: Enjoy it. It goes by so fast.

A cliché I turned my nose up at before…

but I watch his changing face and try and decipher his grunts and squawks and leg kicks and headflops,

and I think about my friend Ronan, who died suddenly at just-turned-two, (and his parents who carry that with them like a second skin,)

and about my friend Ange, who died on Friday at 38, (and whose brand new baby girl will carry that with her, into her brave and barely begun life,)

and I’m crying for us all, and how goddamn fast it really feels.

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And I’m hoping the post-natal depression screen doesn’t pick me up; that this isn’t labelled as anything other than an almighty dose of love, life, and whiplash at the barely-bearable fleetingness of being.

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  1. whisperingleavz
    April 19, 2013 at 07:24

    Barely-bearable fleetness, i like that. So much inner-wealth developed unseen by loving with a full heart. and Ange’s daughter will have you – to surround her with stories of her own beginning and wrap her in arms from beyond.

  2. Janet Marsh
    April 19, 2013 at 08:44

    This is so true. Enjoy every day as unit is your last. The time goes so fast.

  3. April 19, 2013 at 16:56

    Lisa that brought tears to my eyes, so beautiful and poignant. Thank you for sharing this.

  4. April 19, 2013 at 20:01

    This is a beautifully wrought piece of art – something that I would be proud to have authored. I’m crying and I’m not post partum-ly depressed. I’m crying because the raw emotion you are describing so precisely is authentic and relative to my situation & because loss of the precious lives in my world is oh so heart-stoppingly possible and so unthinkable.

  5. Lisa Richardson
    April 20, 2013 at 04:39

    Thanks, friends.

  6. April 24, 2013 at 01:26

    Beautiful, all of it, all of you; so lovely you have one another to share. Love from me too, Pam.

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